年前我前妻和别人私奔了，不顾家里双方父母的积极反对走了，留下了一个四岁的孩子，现在孩子他外婆想外甥
首先，要了解一下父母为什么不愿意祝福你们。天底下的父母都是爱自己的孩子的，都是希望孩子能够得到幸福。孩子长大了要结婚这是父母所期盼的，所以父母一定不会无缘无故地反对。父母反对得厉害，这个时候就要心平气和地坐下来聊一聊，听听父母的意见。
父母毕竟是长辈，比我们多活了几十年，对待婚姻也更加有经验。父母不看好对象，肯定是有原因的。要么是觉得对方人品不好，要么是觉得门不当户不对，或者还有其他的理由，先了解父母的“纠结点”在哪里。
第二，想想父母说的是否有道理。听完了父母的意见，冷静下来想想父母说的是否有道理。有些父母看人是很准的，也很有眼光，能够以小见大。虽然有些事情是很小的一件事，但是通过这件事情父母就能够看出这人的人品究竟好不好。
思考之后若觉得父母说的有道理，那再接下来想想应该要怎么办，是继续交往一段时间还是直接分手。
第三，想想自己是否有办法劝父母。有时候父母说的可能也不对，这个时候就要想想自己是否有办法让父母慢慢对对象改观。如果父母反对得厉害，那就先不着急结婚，再让父母考察一段时间，等父母对其印象好转之后再结婚。
第四，若是两个人都觉得肯定不会后悔，一定要结婚，那就结吧。如果两个人都意志坚定，觉得自己结婚后肯定不会后悔，不结婚两个人就过不下去了，非结婚不可。那就顶着父母反对的压力结婚吧！没有父母能够拧得过孩子，因为父母都是爱孩子的。
结婚的当下可能父母会很生气，但是一段时间过去了，父母终究还是父母，他们不会真的不管不顾的。
第一段翻译：
Exhibition letter Ann, busy to disturb you is really embarrassed.
Now, I think I should be time to write a letter to you,
I just know you hate me so much,。
but please allow to be my last audience?
Because there is a lot that I want to tell you through this letter.
Thanks. These years, lost your contact but also lost our friendship, my deep regret.
Unfortunately, life has no regret! If I can help.
Good friends should help each other, isn't they?
剩下的翻译：
Maybe you don't know, I have been missing you,
not blame you, blame me for cowardice and escape.
After high school, the family asked me to "official" (superstition).
I did not from, so I hid in a classmate's home, at that time。
now think is really ridiculous, obviously very want to
know how your college entrance examination,
but just do not have the courage to call you, why? Is irritable?
Or are timid? Maybe all, so I asked him to inquire about you (call you)。
and I knew it harassed you. It may hurt your heart and live up to her expectations.
But I am not like that Like it?
I hope to take this opportunity to express my apology to you and say sorry to you!
I know some things are useless to say sorry, but I still beg for your forgiveness。
hope you can accept my late confession, hope the past let him past.
Perhaps you have forgotten, perhaps I also do not need to mention again。
and perhaps at the beginning is redundant.
and then later, gradually there is no news of you.
I also have no way, because at that time I was really chaotic,
my world became a mess。
my mood was bad to the extreme, I don't want to be tired to you, really! .
(Actually, I have asked someone to go to Dongxi to find you。
I know your home is not in Dongxi. ) 。
In my freshman year, I dropped out because of my family distress.
After that time, I have been living while working and learning, and at that time。
Fan Zhengli gave me a great help.
The pressure of study and busy work make my daily life full and nervous,
but my thoughts for you have never subsided one day.
Over the years, I felt like an ostrich with my head buried in a sandbag,。
thinking that I could forget all my troubles and missing。
but I found that I was wrong, my troubles can be briefly forgotten,
and the missing is beheaded in any case.
Whenever it is quiet in the dead of night , I always think of all your dribs and drabs。
I always forget your gentle and considerate voice, your beauty, show off the wisdom.
Whenever I think of these, I will feel that I am happy, the day's fatigue will also disappear.
You have ever know every day after a busy day,
with sweet miss sleep, what comfortable ah. Hello and beautiful!
The last time I came to Hangzhou, in fact, you don't need to see me.
Just want to talk to you, just want to tell you this.
I said I wanted you to come to Hangzhou. It's actually a joke.
Li and I said I had a girlfriend before.
Later, he broke up. In fact, I just want to test your reaction,
there was a mood and conditions to talk about?
You asked Xiao to tell me that you have a boyfriend.
If I don't think of it, it is false, no matter you
have a boyfriend this matter is true or false。
I will sincerely bless you! Have you really never felt anything about me?
I am so stupid! What if you do so? Maybe this is good to you, good to me.
Take good care of you! Just be me
The years have been wishful thinking and sentimental.
People always have to learn to grow up, feelings.
Ha ha, so say up, it is as if you gave me a lesson oh?
People laugh at me silly, maybe it is, perhaps the feelings really shouldn't see so heavy.
Some time ago was originally wanted to make you happy。
(in fact, this is a friend of my search idea, ah... a wrong again wrong. )。
Really disrespect for you, sorry. Ah.... maybe this is a good ending, thank you.
People laughed at me silly, maybe it was.
Fool, but what? The day still goes on.
Right, right? Haha.... Are you doing right now?
Your one Are you sister and brother?
How about the aunt? Or will you call it so?
It feels like you are a bit like an aunt right now.
Uncle's eyes are like you, so crazy! Mother and uncle is so happy!
Ha ha! After writing these words, feel the mood really relaxed a lot。
the original no worry alive is so easy, everything let go, with the encounter!
Let everything with the wind!
Finally sincerely wish you, wish you smooth work,。
wish you find life really love you good partner,
wish aunt smile, also wish your family happiness!
小孩是无罪的，不要把你们两的感情追放在别人身上，老人想小孩就让她接去玩几天吧，但是上学的话还是别在她外婆那里上了，怎么说呢，反正小孩还是在自己自边好点。
我觉得吧应该可以吧，孩子让她外婆接去，因为那样可以一举两得，可以让自己的孩子学到知识，还可以让她和外婆，产生一点感情。让他的外婆不再那么想他了。
你要是不想给你孩子留下阴影，就让他去她姥姥家，毕竟是亲姥姥，说不定你前妻看到孩子后她会后悔跟你分开呢
玩一下，还是可以的，但是不建议在那边上学的，其实孩子在自己身边还是好一些，至少他有一个亲人在身边，如果他妈妈走了，连您也不管他了，那就是真的对他的不公平了。
谢谢
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